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Wedding-day etiquette tips for the bride and groom!

Tami Lancut Leibovitz

Mazal Tov! The most exciting day in your life has arrived and it’s fabulous, your wedding day!

After months and weeks of planning, I know you think you got your special evening rehearsed and controlled by the second, but the truth is, that’s just not the way it works!

Within the stress and uber-excitement, you must be flexible and enjoy the flow of the evening. After all, this is your extraordinary celebration of love and unity and you need to let yourself feel the moment, Don’t waste your evening in worrying about the production of the event, it will all fall into place.

Remember that people came to celebrate the love and care you guys share so make it romantic – enter the event together or leave together, adding some character like sharing special words or gifts in front of the crowd will make the event that much more special to the crowd –turn it from a party to a lovely celebration of your love and connection.

I truly hope those tips will help you battle the night with grace, strength, elegance and beauty, and most importantly– lots of joy:

• After the ceremony, many family members, friends and guests will come to hug, kiss and show you both  affection – that’s great for the soul but not for the bride’s make-up or the groom skin that will be covered with make-up! Use the international code for wedding kisses, a kiss in the air behind the cheek will do just fine! Just reach your cheek the right way, so the kisser lips will touch the air and not your skin.
• Also, don’t forget to switch your ring to the left hand after the ceremony, multiple people will shake your hand and from my experience, many brides end up leaving the event with a bruised right hand – a combination of the new ring and the many handshakes!
• It’s important to look great but it is also just as important to feel good about ourselves and feel comfortable, choose comfort over trend and create a dress that will make you feel fabulous while also keeps you looking and feeling relaxed. There’s nothing worse than a bride that seems trap in her own dress and shoes! Same goes for the groom side – keep your clothes fitted, with comfortable, breathing fabric. You can look flawless in a great suit without looking awkward – make sure the suit broadcasts your excitement to the world – wear it with confidence!
• Grooms – bring a spare shirt with you! After you sweat, get excited and dance – you might want a shirt to feel great and refreshed in!
• Brides – keep a small make-up bag around your best friend or mom – someone that will let you know if your make up is drizzling all-over your face. Why mom or best friend? Someone that is not close to you enough might be embarrassed to tell you your make-up is smudged!
• Act in a timely manner and don’t let your guests wait! Some guests with young kids or older parents to worry about, has to plan everything by the hour, be polite and make sure your ceremony is happening in the time you set on the invitation you sent out.
• On wedding day, remind the photographer two things: First of all, he has to make sure everyone to appear in the photos – family or friends, dancers or not! Many photographers stick to the dance floor and forget about the rest. Your second photographer tip is technical – ask the photography crew to keep a high level of safety where cables and electricity are laying around the dance floor and reception, especially if kids are around! A friendly reminder can’t hurt but will make you feel safer.  Same goes for any DJ etc. that uses electricity in the event.
• To the loving couple: Don’t get carried away in the event and forget to thank everyone - make sure you pay attention to everyone that came, at least greet them if not have a small talk. If you invited those people to your wedding, it’s only fair you’ll be kind enough to exchange words with them.

After all the excitement is done and over with, there’s one last thing to do besides living happily ever after – send out the thank you cards to thank your guests, keep your etiquette standards high even after the event!

For extra tips about writing Thank You card tips, please visit my “Thank You cards” blog post at: http://bit.ly/TamiThanks,

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